The
mind is so ramped up and thoughts don’t help. Everything is fuzzy and the
confusion increases.
Looking
back at my own life, I know the moments of panic, although I have never lost a
job. I lost my partner and the place I was living in, in a new city, a new country,
over night. The mind is a trap, and thinking things over doesn’t help. What
comes out of that ‘filing cabinet’ called mind is memories and conclusions,
never anything new. More of the ‘Oh my God’s’, and no way out. Have you ever
experienced this? And if so, was there expansion and space, or was it
contraction and a sense of suffocation?
In
a world of ‘How-To-Do-Life’, there is nothing else outside of the box. There is
no question. There is only ‘I-have-to-fix-this!’. We start running in the
hamster wheel of ‘I have to find a new job’, ‘I have to do this and have to do
that’ to change what is and bring back what was lost, so that we can have ‘our
life’ back, go back to how it was and used to be. And we are actually not being
present. We are ‘outside of ourselves’, literally.
Now,
how do we get back in?
What
if we had a question? A question such as “What else is possible here?” or “How
can this turn out better than I could possibly imagine?”
I
remember, when I lost my home overnight in a foreign city, in a precarious
situation, my mind suggested ‘You can just go back!’ It was telling me to go
back to what was familiar, as if that was my only choice. I didn’t know anybody
else in the city, had just gotten there a couple of months before, had no bank
account and didn’t even know where to sleep. I knew one thing, the street was
not an option. I had a little money left in my pocket. The suggestion from my
mind, the conclusion of going back to Europe and picking up the familiar life
over there was not appealing. Somehow, I managed to ask a question to the
universe, “What’s next?”, “What do I do now?” and “Where do I go?”
By
the next day, through a row of ‘serendipities’, as I would call it, I had a
place to stay, my own small room with a bed, a small desk and a window, and
new people in my life, overnight, people who encouraged me with kind words and
genuine smiles.
Now,
I wonder, what if we never come to any conclusion? What if we never expect
anything? What if we don’t make ourselves believe that ‘this is the perfect
job’, ‘this is the perfect husband/wife’,
‘this is what I will do until I retire’ etc. These are all conclusions
that make us believe that all is well and we have it figured out and right. How
much do we make ourselves unaware?
What
if the grunge in the stomach, the bad feeling, the headache, the tightness in
the morning on the way to the office, is our body trying to tell us something?
How often do we shovel our knowing underneath the carpet, so that we can stay
in the illusion of ‘all is well’?
I
knew, then, that something was coming, that something was not so well. I had
dreams, and I ignored them. I did not want to loose my illusion of the ‘happy
life’. I never asked “What is this that I am sensing?” or “What is my body
trying to tell me?”
If
we allowed ourselves to be aware all the time, would we know, clear and bright
as the day, that something was changing? Yes. And, instead of ignoring that
knowing, we could ask a question. A question will empower us, and we can take
action. Questions such as “What is this?” and “What are my choices here?” can
change the energy of a situation.
We
might find that fear and withdrawal are only two possible choices. “What else
can I choose?” can open pathways and doors that we didn’t even know existed.
In
my case, I chose not to go back to Europe. I chose to return to my art classes
next morning. I had asked the universe to give me a sign that I was on the
‘right path’, a sign that I could understand beyond doubt. When I entered the
art school, I discovered my name on the list of students who had won a
scholarship. The universe had given me a sign that it had my back.
If
you knew that the universe has your back, what would you choose? If you knew
that you could never fail, what would that create in your reality?
Instead
of going into freeze and standstill and conclusion and freak-out, we can ask a
question. “How does it get any better than this?” is a question and an Access
Consciousness®
tool.
A
question always opens more possibilities. The universe will always bring
possibilities, ideas and inspirations to us. Sometimes, they will look
different from what we think they will. What if that difference, if we are
willing to choose it, can create a new beginning and a different reality for us
that will be greater than what we could have imagined?
A
wise man said “Never give up and never quit!”.
If
I had listened to my mind, who knows? I might have went ‘back’ into the old,
back to a past that was no more. And what would that have created? Yet, when we
step forward and ask a question, I know now that we can create miracles, that
we can be magic and expand our possibilities beyond any box. We can create
whatever we would like to create.
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Bettina Madini ('Star-Rose') is an Access Consciousness®
Certified Facilitator, artist, singer and inspiring public speaker. Born in
Berlin, Germany, she is currently living in the United States. Bettina’s
paintings can be found in corporate and private collections in Europe,
Australia and in the United States. She offers private sessions, Painting
workshops and facilitates Access Consciousness® Core Classes, internationally.
To find Bettina’s classes and see her art work please visit: www.BettinaStar-Rose.com.
Access Consciousness® was founded by Gary Douglas. All the
tools in this article are derived from Access Consciousness®. Read more about
Access Consciousness® at www.AccessConsciousness.com.
